watered down forgiveness + justified retentance

Hello! :)
its been a while since i used my blog! but i am back now! ready to write away life and life expereinces once again! i was reminded of my blog after a friend told me me i have a gift of writting! that i will do great if i pursue a career in such an area!
So i have decided to start 2010 with a good one!
Happy new year by the way, i trust you have God in your year, with him joy and peace and freedom is all for you this year!

Its been brought to my attention within this christian culture of ours, something so powerful to break bondages and heal hurts! something so freeing and releases reconciliation has become distorted, watered down and misused!
I am talking about forgiveness and repentance!
my expereince only recently this year has seriously alarmed me and i really feel the need to comment on it as i beleive it happens alot!

Forgiveness and how its displayed sometimes it out right dissapointing and quite frank i believe God greives over how we sometimes handle forgiveness!
spending alot of time in a christian residential program and again for a short time in another one i have learnt and been pounded with the importance of forgiveness and repentace! both places has taught the right and healthy process of it!
however in a world were naturally we like to justify ourself in why we do things and really do not like to take responsibility!
i know this too well because i myself used to have this type of approach in life! only over the years! i have really understood and live what forgiveness should be and is!

does this sound too familiar to you? when you go to someone and say i am sorry then the words... BUT!!!! or HOWEVER!!! ????? or has it been done to you?!! it has to me! and i hate it! to make it a little clearer... " i am sorry for saying those nasty things i done to you, BUT you made me so mad and so angry"!
That my friend is a clear as crystal example of what forgiveness is not! i believe what we do in any situation is what we need to own! meaning if i blow off at someone i am responsable for what i say and do! not the person u lost it with! So taking responsability for our action and not saying "you made me do this" " you made me angry" and so on!
if you are really sorry and become so humble you own what u did and thats it! full stop! you should never justify your actions! because when doing so you are saying i am sorry but not really because u made me feel like this so u are responsable for how i reacted!

now repentance!
it carrys a similar approach in not justifying! but when someone repents to you its outrageous to have a puffed chest saying "So you should be"!!! remember its most likely the hardest thing to come and admit to someone a wrong you have done and then get thrown in your face again what u did!
maybe you will like this approach i take!
when someone repents to me i don't like to say "ah its all good" cause really its not ok what they did but i say "thanks so much for apologising" hug them and have all round a heart of love and respect for that person who just humbled themselves completely!!!
never do i say or give an attitude of " yeah you better be sorry" "do u know how much that hurt oh man u blew it" that is quite degrading to a person who knows what they did or otherwise wouldn't be humbly coming before us!

watered down forgiveness and jusified repentance needs to stop in this culture!
Does God say "oh sarah you do know when you did that it was really bad and you made me feel so horrible and i really just can't talk to you right now cause its just insane what you did so just give me space and don't talk to me cause you really blew it and it made me feel......................"
HAHA!! i laugh because if God did that! we all would be feeling condemed won't we??!!! YES!! yes we will indeed!
but His style of forgiveness is amazingly freeing! its not even a style but a life style He asks us to follow "be imitators of christ" it says in the bible!!
there is no condemnation in christ so why the heck are we going around condeming people when they want forgiveness and are repentant?~?~?~

So there is some food for thought! i really hope this christian culture today will no longer water down something that is meant to work in all its power! because when something is watered down its effect isn't as strong as it should be! Its work itsn't as effective as it wants to be!!!!

Love you all!!!!